How you feel about yourself dictates your level of inner joy and happiness. It also dictates the successes you have (or don't have). You achieve what you feel you are worthy of nothing more, nothing less. Your sense of 'worth' is not based on surface values.. it is based on core beliefs. Self-esteem and your 'core beliefs' are the foundation of your life. Imagine building a house without a foundation or constructing a new house on a weakened foundation. What happens? Eventually the house will crumble. That is exactly what happens in your life when you have a low self-esteem. You either fail to achieve your goals or you self-sabotage your successes. The end result is always the same failure. You will continue this pattern until you are ready to address the low self esteem issue and devise a 'Life Makeover' plan.
But where does the self esteem come from?
Self esteem begins at birth. Scientific research has proven that the first moments of life are bonding between mother and baby. These are your first experiences in life that contribute to a healthy self esteem. So, from our early childhood you have a natural instinct to 'want to please' your parents. When you fail to live up to their expectations, subconsciously your inner chatter begins to tell you 'you are not worthy'. This inner-voice molds a 'belief' and in time creates a 'deep-seated [limiting] belief' often called a 'core belief'. This is not a conscious process… and oftentimes you don't even realize you have this inner belief-system working or that you lack self-esteem. Let me give you an example. Imagine someone you know lost their job. The state lottery soars to $250 million. They stand in line to buy a ticket. They hold it in their hand.. and the first words out of their mouth are: 'I'll never win.. I never win anything'.. and in that instant they get this sinking feeling. Their low self esteem is at work telling them 'they don't deserve to win'. On the flipside, a person with a high self-esteem will hold that ticket in their hand and KNOW they DESERVE to win. This person 'expects' to win.. but even if they don't.. their life is FULL and COMPLETE and they happily move on to the next adventure. This same rule holds true for love, career, success, sports and just about every venue in life.
How does our Self esteem develop? Throughout your childhood parents, teachers, friends, relatives and peers all play a role in the development of your self-esteem. When a child is criticized, ignored, humiliated or ridiculed it begins the cycle of poor self esteem. Many good-intending parents expect their children to be 'perfect' or they set their expectations so high that it was almost impossible for the child to live up to their 'standards'. The end result — a low self-esteem. On the other hand, those children who grow up in a supportive environment often have a much 'higher sense of worth' and their level of happiness and success manifests in strong, loving relationships, successful careers and a sense of inner joy & happiness.
What are the consequences of a low self-esteem? There are many. Some of the most devastating are: depression, loneliness, stress, on-going love and relationship problems, and devastating financial problems. When you lack self-esteem and continue to experience additional failures it further lowers your sense of self-worth as you enter into a dangerous downward spiral.
Can you succeed without a good self-esteem? Yes. But, inevitably you will self-sabotage yourself, You will lose the job, relationship, opportunity, etc or if you manage to reach the pinnacle of success you strive for –you will find it did not 'quench your thirst' and you still unhappy. That perpetuates the belief that you are not worthy of being happy.
So, how do I fix this? Depending on the individual there are options. Some may chose years of psychotherapy. Others will find the 21st century approach to low self esteem more easily remedied by consulting with a Life Coach. Coaching is different than therapy. Therapy deals primarily with your past. A Life Coach helps you to identify your passions and desires and helps you develop a custom life-plan and a blueprint to get there.
Self esteem is the foundation of your life. INVEST IN YOURSELF..
Jill Lanese, Life Coach has developed an intense program to guide you through a process which allows you to safely transform your limiting beliefs which are at the core of a low self esteem. This powerful program RESTORES your self esteem. You feel Empowered! Revitalized. Ready to Live Life to its Fullest!
10 week Program: Introducing an intense 10 week program geared towards awakening your realization of your own self-worth. This 10 week program is for the person 'ready for change'.. and anxious to soar to new heights. It is an intense program that consists of 10 weekly 70 minute sessions several required email or phone follow-ups. Email support is included (at no additional cost). For those not ready to take that big plunge there are also weekly or monthly sessions (live or phone) or email consultations.
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Jill Lanese has her degree in psychology, is a certified Life Coach, has advanced certification in hypnotherapy and thought field therapy as well as several alternative healing modalities. For many years Jill focused on providing past life regressions (which is one of her passions). In recent years, Jill has been providing Life Coaching guidance to an array of successful clients in the North East.